Just this year a personally sad event caused me to acknowledge my absolute rejection of the fundamental Christianity of my parents, and to seek understanding and knowledge partly through forums like these. In the last eight months I have faced my unbelief, which I think was there all the time but I chose to ignore it out of discomfort or tradition or assimilation or all three. I am now very comfortable in this agnostic/atheistic place. My question to other deconverts is: have you told your still-religious family, not told them, tried to de-evangelize them? Is it best to say nothing and just go along to get along? Certainly each family is different, but opinions are welcome.