7 Ways to Talk to Your Family Atheist

Dec 22, 2014

By Herb Silverman

Recently I gave suggestions on what religious people should not say to the atheist in the family. Here are conversations and suggestions that might improve family relations, especially at holiday gatherings.

1. Listen to the atheist.

You might have preconceived ideas on why a family member “turned his back on God.” You are probably wrong. Try to understand and respect his point of view, even if you disagree. That’s a prerequisite for most conversations, especially ones that can become touchy or emotional. Listening to the atheist will be an added incentive for the atheist to listen to you.

2. Look for common ground.

You and your atheist family member might differ on God beliefs, but you likely have a lot more in common than what sets you apart. You probably appreciate the same foods at family dinners. And since watching holiday football games has become somewhat of a national religion, you might all be cheering for the same team. Talk about those common interests and why you are grateful that you can still get along so well. If you also think behavior is more important than belief, say so.

3. Explain how your religious beliefs have changed since childhood.

Your atheist family member might assume that her religious views have matured, but yours have not. If appropriate, tell her that you accept the evidence for evolution (even if you believe God was behind it) and you no longer believe that Noah gathered pairs of all animals including polar bears in a Mideast ark and watched as the rest of humanity drowned. However, if you have the same religious beliefs you had when you were five years old, you might wish to skip this suggestion.


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