“But some families will go in the other direction. Rather than ignoring or denying the reality they’re not happy with, some families will actually force the issue. They’ll pressure their family members to confirm their religiosity – often because they already suspect that it’s weakening or gone. In doing so, they force the nonbelievers to either lie – or tell them a truth they don’t want to hear.
This is one of the many good arguments for coming out sooner rather than later. The problem with your family forcing the issue is that you don’t get to come out on your own timetable. All those wonderful ideas about picking your time carefully, doing it when emotions aren’t running high, deciding who to tell first, etc. – it all goes out the window. So you either have to lie, and tell the truth later – which means you’ll get to pick a better time, but you’ll have the burden and complication of having lied. Or you have to be honest, even though the timing is lousy. (You can try to be vague or dodge the question – but families who are forcing the issue can be very persistent.)”
–Greta Christina, Coming Out Atheist, pgs 99-100